Work Wife Of The Week- Rachelle Eldridge
Rachelle Eldridge empowers women from all walks of life, balances Motherhood with her career and also encourages her two daughters to know their mightiness. You can find her at Flywheel Sports leading classes of sweat, strength and emotional release, with her coach as she boxes and trains for half-marathons, enjoying family life, including two dogs in beautiful Sag Harbor, NY or channeling the power of music to change moods and minds. If you want to join her for a drink, she prefers Tequila but will also Rose' All Day with you and then raise a vodka soda. Motherhood, family, friends and getting physically stronger with each decade is the essence of Rachelle. Read on for inspiration and powerful advice at the end and take her classes if you visit the Hamptons because she makes every single rider feel known. Her current theme song is "This is Me!"
Q: What were you like as a little girl? Is some of that essence still inside of you? I think I was funny, curious, and a tomboy. I see a lot of myself in my youngest daughter. I always had a sense of adventure and danger... always wanted to try new things, experience things. I still want to explore and take adventures. I'm definitely not as daring as I once was; but I still have that free spirit in me.
Q: What was your biggest dream in life? To find true love, get married, have a family. Q: When did you know you wanted to be a Mother? I always knew that when I grew up I wanted to be a mom. Some people grow up knowing they want to be a doctor or a lawyer and I wanted to be a mom from as early as I can remember.
Q: What do you want your daughters to know about their future? That the future is theirs for the taking. To not be afraid to have a voice. I want them to grow up knowing they can do anything they set their minds to, that mistakes and failures will make them stronger and they need to find the lessons learned when those things happen and that it's OK. I hope they understand that life is not perfect and you have to work for the things you want. That they are the ones in control, no one else, to know their worth, embrace their power and to not let anyone take that power away from them. Most of all, do what makes you HAPPY. Find a job you LOVE and are good doing. Be proud of yourself and what you accomplish.
Q: How do you ensure they are learning these lessons? Oh God, every day I question if I'm doing enough or teaching them enough to be independent and strong, both mentally and physically. I tried to find the handbook, but apparently it doesn't exist.
Q: Was there a time in your life when someone made you feel small or full of self-doubt? How did you overcome that? Yes, when I was in grade school I was bullied by this girl in the grade above me. It was an awful experience. I don't think you really overcome something like that, you just don't repeat the process. I learned as I got older to feel sorry for her because she had to do something like that to me to make herself feel better about who she was and that's a sad thing.
Q: When you are world weary, how do you restore your soul? I put my headphones on and shut the world out with music... either making playlists, going for a run, or taking a class. Anything that just quiets out the noise. I try to stop listening.
Q: Why are you an athlete? That word is odd to me because I have never considered myself an "athlete". Yes, I teach indoor cycling, have run a handful of half-marathons and love to workout; but in my head an athlete is someone who plays a sport for a living, those you see on TV twho people idolize. I have never felt like an "athlete", if that makes any sense. I guess I have to accept that there are variations to the word and start realizing that, yea, ya know what?? I AM an athlete!
Q: What is it about a sweat sesh that empowers you? How much time do you have? (laughs) Wow, there are so many things... when I am teaching, it is COMPLETELY out of my comfort zone. Up there on that podium in front of a room full of people having to be so vulnerable and raw, letting them see me that way it kind of transforms me in to a totally different version of myself. In reality, I'm actually quite shy! So I guess it gives me the power to be who I want to be, I can be anything I want! Having that creativity gives me my power. When I am on the OTHER side of it, when I'm not teaching, when I'm just going for a run, or working out with my coach, I like to push myself and my limits. I never worked out in my 20's. it wasn't until my 30's that I found it and I have really enjoyed watching how strong my body is. I love its power. So every day it's like, OK... what can I do now? What MORE can I do now? Just knowing all I am capable of no matter how hard it gets... that empowers me. I like my strength,
Q: What about yourself and your life are you most proud? What makes you know in your bones that you are a badass? I'm most proud of growing 2 incredibly amazing and beautiful humans. I still sometimes have a hard time wrapping my brain around the fact that I did that (with help of course ) Hmmmm, It's taken me a long time to understand what it means to be a badass. I think I have discovered over the years that I have an unbreakable strength. That if you beat me down, I'm getting back up and you had better watch out. My "bones" are FINALLY comfortable being in my own skin. It's almost as if I turned the corner of life and stumbled upon myself and I think I like the person I found. That is why I know I'm badass.
Q: What do you love about your body? Your life? What do young Mothers or soon to be Mothers not know that you want them to know as a working Mom? I love how strong my body is. I love that at 43, yup, I am kicking ass more now than ever and that I'm in the best shape I have EVER been in and how good it feels. What do I love about my life? Everything. (I can feel the eyes rolling) but listen, it's been HARD, it's been GRUELING and I've been through hell and back, but I wouldn't change it because for every tear, I found a smile; and that's the lesson I hope my girls are watching, that no matter how hard, or bad it gets, YOU have the choice to make it better. YOU have the power to change it. My life might not be perfect by ANY means, but I love it, because it's mine. I want mothers and soon to be mothers to know that it's OK to ask for help. That they are NOT alone. That they DO NOT have to feel like they have to have their shit together, because let's face it... i still don't! We don't know how to do this! We just have to try. At the end of the day, if you survived, you've found success. Make sure you take time for yourself and PLEASE don't let anyone tell you that you're being selfish. If there is one thing I have learned, you have to love yourself and take care of yourself FIRST, otherwise you won't have anything to give to anyone around you.